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Name: Bryan
Location: Cincinnati
Birthday: 3/19/1987
Gender: Male
Interests: "the better-than-amateur crastinator"
Expertise: marbles
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Member Since:
1/21/2005
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| I think I'm gonna grow my hair out til the end of summer, but I need some sort of hat. Why? Because nothing says, "I have long hair" like a hat that is too small to hold it all in.
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| I am encouraged to know that our generation is unique. We grew up with different psychological emphases, and therefore we will be different than our parents. When we started school, there was a psychological movement called the 'self-esteem' movement. We were taught that we were all special and we should love ourselves regardless of what other people think of us. Unfortunately, as our generation has grown up, psychologists have realized that that movement has had a backlash effect, and now our generation is full of depression because we expected the world to owe us something since we were special. When we ran up against the reality of life, we realized that good things came through effort and risk and sacrifice. These things were counter to our sense of entitlement, and thus depression set in. In response, society has found that anti-depression drugs and 'positive' psychology have become marketable, and those things have been over-prescribed. We're taught that we're suppose to be happy all the time. Contrarily though, happiness often comes through a sense of accomplishment received from effort or through the sense of self-discovery that is revealed by challenging ourselves. Recently I had been getting down because I am a college student on my way out to the 'real world', and I felt that all I have done and all I can do are simply repeats of what have been done before. Even my emotions, my experiences in life, the jokes I've had...have all been done before. But the truth is that our generation is uniquely shaped by the main trains of thought that we grew up with, and therefore what we do and the ways in which we do those things will be uniquely different.
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| I think the thing that unsettles me the most is the inevitability of change, and the powerlessness I feel therein. A number of events are changing right now that I can't control. They change because they are a function of time, and I can't reverse them or go back to the way things were. I can't even pause these events where they are. They keep going, and my impotence is extremely frustrating. Why is it so frustrating to not be in control? I mean, it's very natural to want to be in control, but why is it so unnerving to not be in control? | | |
| I have finally reached a point in maturity where I am able to see why I shouldn't blame other people. I actually learned it from work. I learned that no matter who's fault it is, it doesn't get the job done whether you blame someone else or not. Since our supervisor doesn't really blame people, but just gives an overall lecture to all of us, I think it was easier to see that because I'm not fending for myself, and the blame doesn't matter. It just hurts if anything. Then again, this might be a different matter if I was dealing with an insurance company. This was further emphasized to me by taking a road trip with Scott Page. We drove from California to Michigan, stopping at some parks along the way. When it was just us, it didn't matter if we blamed our problems at other people, the weather, or whatever. The problems were only solved when we did something about them. | | |
| Driving in a car is an interesting metaphor. You get a sense of movement without having to give much effort. That's very rare, but also seemingly very desirable. | | |
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